Extroverts and Introverts

Extroverts and introverts are two very different “types” of people. For those who don’t know, extroverts are people who love being around other people. They’re bubbly and enjoy being in the limelight, and extroverts just love having a good time. They don’t mind being in crowds and make new friends easily like beautiful little social butterflies. Introverts, on the other hand, are basically the opposite. That’s not to say they don’t enjoy being social. They just can’t handle it for as long, and need alone time to recharge their batteries. Here are a few distinguishing things about the two personality types that might help you figure out which you are (remember, not everyone is gonna fit exactly into a personality type; maybe you’re an ambivert, a mix of the two!)!

Having Fun: Introverts and extroverts can have drastically different definitions of fun. As an introvert, I can tell you that my ideal Friday night consists of me being home in my pajamas, cuddling my cat, and reading or writing something. Going out with friends isn’t always appealing, but it really depends on how the day went. I tend to have more energy if I haven’t had an overload of social interactions throughout the day, and I’d be more likely to be spontaneous with my friends that night. Extroverts on the other hand, don’t always enjoy being kept inside, especially on weekend nights. They love going out, walking around downtown, meeting new people, and getting wild.


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The perfect example of the differing definitions of fun between introverts and extroverts is the party example. If an extrovert went to a party, it’s likely they’d be in the crowd, dancing, having a blast. In contrast, introverts would probably hide away on the edge of the room, maybe having a little something to eat or drink, and possibly mingling briefly with other introverts.

Friends: Now, this section isn’t a popularity contest about who has the most friends. It’s more about how introverts and extroverts interact with their friends. Extroverts have large rings of friends that they’re comfortable with, and are always making new ones to add to the circle. Introverts are more secluded, and while they have plenty of friends themselves, some introverts prefer to only share their secrets with a handful of their closest ones, who they’ve known for awhile and trust immensely. Also, from personal experience as an introvert, I can inform you that some of us, when in a large group of friends, tend to branch off and only chat with a few, unless the entire group is doing something all together. Introverts prefer one on one conversations to large group discussion sessions, and being the center of attention is incredibly nerve wracking for them.

Encountering Strangers: Interactions with strangers are very different for introverts and extroverts. As we’ve established, extroverts make friends easily. They enjoy social interaction, and talking to strangers doesn’t daunt them.


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However, introverts are a different story. When an introvert meets someone new, it’s perfectly normal for them to be very shy and quiet. Don’t let this upset you, if you meet someone who doesn’t talk much. Chances are, they’re an introvert, and they’re just trying to size you up. Meeting someone new is hard for introverts, and they like to start by studying people to see what kind of person they are. Don’t let this freak you out. It’s just our way of saying hello! We wanna be friends, but we’re not sure if you want the same thing. We’re afraid of coming off too strong, so we do the opposite until we’re assured that you also are looking for friendship.

Now, at the beginning, I briefly mentioned a third personality type. Ambiverts. This is a personality type in between introverts and extroverts. And there can be even more personalities in between those three, too. Introverts who display extroverted qualities, and vice versa. It can be difficult to see which someone is, sometimes, but that’s okay. If we only had two or three solid personality types, things would be boring. People tend to lean towards one type or the other, but it’s not bad if you don’t! It’s not set in stone! The terms used to define personality types are nothing more than man-made labels. It’s okay if you like your personality being identified, and it’s okay if you don’t. Just be the best you that you can be.

(Hey, you! Thanks for reading this post! Still unsure of which type of personality you have? You really wanna know that bad? Here’s a cute little quiz I found that can tell you, if you’re really interested! [I’m not sponsored, haha. I just think Buzzfeed quizzes are fun sometimes.])